It's 2008 and people still have homophobia, I find that funny. I personally don't care who is gay or who is not, because either way it doesn't effect me. Everyone is sending those stooopid email messages saying NeYo is gay, WHO CARES he makes good music gay/straight/bi whatever he is. I don't see what someone's sexual preference has to do with anything.
Just like you don't like every girl/guy that you see, they don't either; so what exactly are you scared of? Also, if your confident in who you are, and what you prefer, no one can TURN you gay so it's just stupid to say that. People always justify it by saying it's "ungodly", but I thought judging was "ungodly" too. It is not your job to judge them for what they are doing. It's not as if being gay harms people, they are not murderers, or child molestors. Also, why is it so hard to believe that SOME of them were born thinking as if they were the opposite sex. We already know that there are people who are born with both sex organs, so why is it so hard to believe that there can be some miswiring in the brain as well?
From asking a group of people I found it interesting that most people would rather have a child that's a whore, than a child that is gay. You would like to think that parents are ready to accept their kids for who they are, but since we ARE the next generation of parents, I guess we haven't got to that point yet.
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Who let you out the house looking like that?
Who let you out of the house looking like that?
Thou who hath no real friends, this is for you.
Yes, it is true, clothes do not care who wear them. I believe manufacturers will make any style of clothing in every single size, not to make money but for the pure sake of entertainment. Seriously, why would anyone make spandex pants in a 4x? That's just insane. The world's supply of spandex will surely soon be depleted.
Do not get me wrong this is not a fat bashing. People of all sizes do not always choose clothing that is flattering to their particular shape.
For example:
If you are over 37 I personally recommend that you no longer wear mini skirts and belly shirts. I don't care how many drunk old men told you how sexy you are, or how young you look in the face. Ma'am, we can tell how many kids you have had from the stretch mark rings around your belly button. Quit it, Please! For the sake of the general public!
If you have a nice slim legs, slim arms, and/or a nice bosom, but you have a 22 inch Cadillac tire around your belly....that is called a Muffin top. Never ever should any of your skin fall over the top of your pants to where you might lose sight of your belt. Buy a bigger pair of pants or a larger shirt or tuck that mess in some spanx.
Mexican prom shoes should never be worn out in public period. No matter what nationality you are.
Skinny jeans on people with no shape looks gross.
Out of shape men with beer bellies should not wear fitted shirts.
Most( if not all) of these examples were witnessed in public places. Where are these people's friends?? I have good friends who wont let me leave the house looking a H.A.M. (Hot Azz Mess)
I even have friends who won't let me buy clothes that do not flatter my shape. True friends don't let other friends embarrass themselves (in public).
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Forgiveness & Trust
One of the hardest things to do is forget something that hurt you. People say all the time "you forgive, but you never forget" but if your trying to move forward with that situation, how does that work? No matter how bad you try to get over it, or move on, when a situation comes about that triggers that memory, you will remember. You will remember exactly how you felt, the emotions you went thru, etc... may even feel different towards whoever it was that hurt you for a moment.
Can you truly forgive someone, if you never forget how you felt? I don't believe so. I believe you can agree to move on, because you feel as though your bond with that person may be worth it; but when it comes to a situation similar to the 1 you are supposed to forget, you will always remember. It's like Lyfe said, "once the trust is gone, you can never get it back". You may trust that person in every other aspect of your friendship, relationship, what have you; but when it comes to that situation your trust is gone. As much as you want to hope they will never do "whatever it is they did to lose your trust" again, you wouldn't put it past them if they did.
In order for people to truly understand how forgiveness works, they need to understand that; just because you say "I forgive you", that does not mean everything you felt will be erased. The word "forgive" is not magic. We need to understand that saying that word is just the beginning. In order for that friendship, relationship, etc... to be repaired, both parties will need to openly communicate on how they feel and/or felt about the situation. Emotions and memories are like dust, you can sweep them under the rug if you like; but they are still there and therefore they can still cause you to sneeze.
Can you truly forgive someone, if you never forget how you felt? I don't believe so. I believe you can agree to move on, because you feel as though your bond with that person may be worth it; but when it comes to a situation similar to the 1 you are supposed to forget, you will always remember. It's like Lyfe said, "once the trust is gone, you can never get it back". You may trust that person in every other aspect of your friendship, relationship, what have you; but when it comes to that situation your trust is gone. As much as you want to hope they will never do "whatever it is they did to lose your trust" again, you wouldn't put it past them if they did.
In order for people to truly understand how forgiveness works, they need to understand that; just because you say "I forgive you", that does not mean everything you felt will be erased. The word "forgive" is not magic. We need to understand that saying that word is just the beginning. In order for that friendship, relationship, etc... to be repaired, both parties will need to openly communicate on how they feel and/or felt about the situation. Emotions and memories are like dust, you can sweep them under the rug if you like; but they are still there and therefore they can still cause you to sneeze.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Ay, If I tell you one mo time...
Don't you hate it when people ask you the same thing over and over again. If I told you once, I told you twice...my answer is still the same. Why ask me something if you can't accept what I say? What do you want me to say? Matter of fact, tell me what you want me to say so the next time you ask me I can tell you. If you can't handle the truth, don't ask the question(s).
Don't you also hate it when people ask you something like "do you like my outfit" or "do you like the person I'm dating" and your response is no, then they're reply back is that you're hatin' on them. C'mon now...why do I need to hate on you when you're CLEARLY trying to get my stamp of approval. If I don't like something, I DON'T LIKE IT. I don't care if its a $1,000 bag by Gucci, some $600 shoes by Marc Jacobs or the highest paid football player in the league, if I don't like it/him, I won't... regardless of who it is or what it is!
And if I told once that your guy/girl is a runner (whore) and it prolly won't be a good look for you to hook up with them and you do it anyway, don't get mad if I'm not sensitive to your relationship problems. I'm not going to bring up the fact that I "told you so," because by now you already know I "told you so." But what I will do is keep my breath to myself and watch how the rest of your story unfolds. Everybody think they're a professional when they're still enrolled in amateur classes. Words from the wise... get some credits first, get you some credits!!!
Long story short, don't ask questions that you really don't want to know the answer to and if you do cancel the sensitiveness and defensiveness...we too old for that!
Don't you also hate it when people ask you something like "do you like my outfit" or "do you like the person I'm dating" and your response is no, then they're reply back is that you're hatin' on them. C'mon now...why do I need to hate on you when you're CLEARLY trying to get my stamp of approval. If I don't like something, I DON'T LIKE IT. I don't care if its a $1,000 bag by Gucci, some $600 shoes by Marc Jacobs or the highest paid football player in the league, if I don't like it/him, I won't... regardless of who it is or what it is!
And if I told once that your guy/girl is a runner (whore) and it prolly won't be a good look for you to hook up with them and you do it anyway, don't get mad if I'm not sensitive to your relationship problems. I'm not going to bring up the fact that I "told you so," because by now you already know I "told you so." But what I will do is keep my breath to myself and watch how the rest of your story unfolds. Everybody think they're a professional when they're still enrolled in amateur classes. Words from the wise... get some credits first, get you some credits!!!
Long story short, don't ask questions that you really don't want to know the answer to and if you do cancel the sensitiveness and defensiveness...we too old for that!
Friday, September 5, 2008
Could you handle it...
Let's say your significant other cheated on you, could you handle them telling you that they did?
Even though you're hurting and mad could you respect the fact that they came and told you?
Could you accept the fact that they were man/woman enough to admit their wrongs and try to make amends for it?
Tough questions, right!!! To be honest I don't know how I would feel, respond, or react. Cheating is always a tough pill to swallow. There's no easy way to get it down without gagging, choking, or it not leaving a lasting impression inside on it's way to digestion. It's one of those pains that sometimes just don't make sense. Sometimes you never see it coming, but they say you usually always have a sign. It may be apparent and sometimes it may not be, but I'm almost certain it's never wanted. Then the cheater usually wants to be forgiven and get back in the cheated's good graces. Often times they have an excuse as to why they cheated, as if their explanation makes it better. There is no excuse that'll make me say "oh ok, I get it...I understand why you did that." I guess this is one of those situtations where you'll have to be in that situtation before you can really comment on how you'll react.
Even though you're hurting and mad could you respect the fact that they came and told you?
Could you accept the fact that they were man/woman enough to admit their wrongs and try to make amends for it?
Tough questions, right!!! To be honest I don't know how I would feel, respond, or react. Cheating is always a tough pill to swallow. There's no easy way to get it down without gagging, choking, or it not leaving a lasting impression inside on it's way to digestion. It's one of those pains that sometimes just don't make sense. Sometimes you never see it coming, but they say you usually always have a sign. It may be apparent and sometimes it may not be, but I'm almost certain it's never wanted. Then the cheater usually wants to be forgiven and get back in the cheated's good graces. Often times they have an excuse as to why they cheated, as if their explanation makes it better. There is no excuse that'll make me say "oh ok, I get it...I understand why you did that." I guess this is one of those situtations where you'll have to be in that situtation before you can really comment on how you'll react.
Thursday, September 4, 2008
what are your intentions???
If people would simply state their intentions before jumping in the sack, a lot of confusion would be eliminated. I've noticed that people tend to s3x, s3x, s3x, and then ask ...so what are we doing here???? UMMM it's a bit late for that.
She's thinking: We spend soo much time together.. We hang out, watch movies and cuddle , he's so cool.
He's thinking: What's the shortest movie I can put on today so we can get straight to the s3x.
(lame example I know, but it shows how 2 people can view the same thing differently)
Now if these same people had discussed what they were looking for and trying to do upfront, they wouldn't be confused about what they are doing.
Men state your intentions. If a woman hears your intentions upfront, she can make the decision as to whether or not she's willing to entertain you further. You will win some, and you will lose some, but you will know that those who did sign up for the ride, know where it's heading. There will be no surprises or confusion down the line. There are plenty of chics who are looking to "just have a good time" too, so seek out THOSE chics. "You can't go into a couture store trying to buy a $12 white tee"... translation: if your looking for the easy, fly by night chic, then go where they are and spit your game to them... a woman with respect, and intelligence, will not entertain or even understand your dialect. She may even feel offended and think to herself "what vibe did i give off that this ninja thought i was one of THOSE chics".
Ladies at the same time don't be naive. The majority of the men who read this (which will be a lot because I foresee thousands of readers...lol) will understand it, maybe even nod their heads agreeing, but are NOT going to start stating their intentions. Why??? because they feel as though by coming across too bluntly, they may lose out on a potential who they could convince to "do it". (to those men: "silly wabbit, tricks are for kids"). Knowing all of this, "don't sell yourself like a $12 tee, and then expect to be treated like a couture item".
She's thinking: We spend soo much time together.. We hang out, watch movies and cuddle , he's so cool.
He's thinking: What's the shortest movie I can put on today so we can get straight to the s3x.
(lame example I know, but it shows how 2 people can view the same thing differently)
Now if these same people had discussed what they were looking for and trying to do upfront, they wouldn't be confused about what they are doing.
Men state your intentions. If a woman hears your intentions upfront, she can make the decision as to whether or not she's willing to entertain you further. You will win some, and you will lose some, but you will know that those who did sign up for the ride, know where it's heading. There will be no surprises or confusion down the line. There are plenty of chics who are looking to "just have a good time" too, so seek out THOSE chics. "You can't go into a couture store trying to buy a $12 white tee"... translation: if your looking for the easy, fly by night chic, then go where they are and spit your game to them... a woman with respect, and intelligence, will not entertain or even understand your dialect. She may even feel offended and think to herself "what vibe did i give off that this ninja thought i was one of THOSE chics".
Ladies at the same time don't be naive. The majority of the men who read this (which will be a lot because I foresee thousands of readers...lol) will understand it, maybe even nod their heads agreeing, but are NOT going to start stating their intentions. Why??? because they feel as though by coming across too bluntly, they may lose out on a potential who they could convince to "do it". (to those men: "silly wabbit, tricks are for kids"). Knowing all of this, "don't sell yourself like a $12 tee, and then expect to be treated like a couture item".
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Men In Skinny Jeans...
"Who in the heyell left this gate open..."
WHY! WHY! WHY! Men please tell me why in the heyell are ya'll in these skinny jeans??? What makes you convince yourself that this is a hot thing to do? What is manly about being in some skinny jeans? Do you actually look in a full body mirror and be like "yea boy, I look fresh to def today." BULLSHYT!!! Stop lying to yourself. You might as well get a clutch bag, some hoop earrings, some lip gloss that's popping and some nice stilettos to round out the outfit. And where the heyell do you put your boys in some skinny jeans? I thought they needed room to hang...out! And do you wear "tighty whities?" This is so disturbing, I can't believe I'm actually asking this.
For the longest, I thought couldn't nothing top my un-attraction to men in some loafers until this men in skinny jeans phenomenon rolled around. How do you honestly go somewhere with a man that has on jeans tighter than you or tight like you? What are we "the tight jeaned co-ed duo?" C'mon ya'll now...for real?! I don't want to see a man's thigh bulging through his pants unless he has on some track tights or a football uniform. Now I respect the fact that all men are not fans of "baggy" jeans. That's cool but the minute you go tighter than a cowboy in his relaxed fit jean...Houston We Have A Problem!!!
WHY! WHY! WHY! Men please tell me why in the heyell are ya'll in these skinny jeans??? What makes you convince yourself that this is a hot thing to do? What is manly about being in some skinny jeans? Do you actually look in a full body mirror and be like "yea boy, I look fresh to def today." BULLSHYT!!! Stop lying to yourself. You might as well get a clutch bag, some hoop earrings, some lip gloss that's popping and some nice stilettos to round out the outfit. And where the heyell do you put your boys in some skinny jeans? I thought they needed room to hang...out! And do you wear "tighty whities?" This is so disturbing, I can't believe I'm actually asking this.
For the longest, I thought couldn't nothing top my un-attraction to men in some loafers until this men in skinny jeans phenomenon rolled around. How do you honestly go somewhere with a man that has on jeans tighter than you or tight like you? What are we "the tight jeaned co-ed duo?" C'mon ya'll now...for real?! I don't want to see a man's thigh bulging through his pants unless he has on some track tights or a football uniform. Now I respect the fact that all men are not fans of "baggy" jeans. That's cool but the minute you go tighter than a cowboy in his relaxed fit jean...Houston We Have A Problem!!!
MISSING!!!
Hey guys my friend is missing and I need your help. The last time I saw him he was going HARD, got sick, and then threw up white stuff everywhere. I saw him briefly after that and he was very calm, and relaxed, but I haven't seen him since. He's a chocolate fella, and he's very thyck and muscular. I think he lifts weights…;) He's about THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSS big times like 29. Everytime I see him he's with these other two dudes, so I'm pretty sure wherever he is they are together. I just wish I could find him. He's a very GOOD friend. He likes to do all the same stuff I like to do, and without him I'm kinda bored. He's not a runner, but he has endurance like one, so he could be across the map by now. He is usually somewhere trying to stay warm, but every now and then he likes to hang out. He plays the guitar sometimes. He really enjoys getting wet, so I'm sure wherever he is there's a beach near. He's one of my closest friends, so I'm really missing him. He likes to play fight with me, and he usually beats me up pretty bad. Sometimes I end up wobbling like a boxer...lol Please help me find my friend, he left something behind and I have it for him.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
A camera taking your picture does NOT equal model...
All of these aspiring video and magazine chics are killing me...lol Since when did portraying yourself as a whore become "the thing to do"? When did we lose our values and decide that "modeling azz" was a career move? I mean really, what's the difference between what SOME of them do and strippers???... What makes it even worse is that if you happen to know a couple of these wannabe "models" you will find that a lot of them have kids. WOW great role model!
A lot of these chics choose to go into this "glorified" business because they see it as a quick buck, and a good way to meet "ballers", but everything comes with a price. If a new gucci bag, and a couple hundred dollars is worth your respect then by all means strip down and get to posing. I don't think they even care to listen to the lyrics of the videos that they decide to be featured in...lol All they hear is OPEN CALL and they getting hoochified up, and going to try out. Twirking like there's a 401K sign up at the end of the video shoot. I wonder how many of them have health insurance and dental care???...lol
I could write about this more, but why even bother... Just like their 15 minutes of fame come and go, their 5 minutes of my time has also come to an end. Good Luck "Ladies", and I use the term loosely!
A lot of these chics choose to go into this "glorified" business because they see it as a quick buck, and a good way to meet "ballers", but everything comes with a price. If a new gucci bag, and a couple hundred dollars is worth your respect then by all means strip down and get to posing. I don't think they even care to listen to the lyrics of the videos that they decide to be featured in...lol All they hear is OPEN CALL and they getting hoochified up, and going to try out. Twirking like there's a 401K sign up at the end of the video shoot. I wonder how many of them have health insurance and dental care???...lol
I could write about this more, but why even bother... Just like their 15 minutes of fame come and go, their 5 minutes of my time has also come to an end. Good Luck "Ladies", and I use the term loosely!
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