Every woman should know...

"Every woman should know when to try harder, and when to walk away" - Maya Angelou


Time and time again I've seen chics drag a relationship out because of what it could/should/might be, when they know it's over. Chics end up wasting another 3-6 months (give or take) just trying to decide what they should do. I can guarantee you that when a chic breaks up with a guy, it has been coming for a long time. On the other hand a guy could break up with a chic at the first signs of things heading the wrong way. Granted they may tend to keep going back to chics from their past, but "a guy can only do what you let him".


So I said all of this to say, women need to learn "when to try harder, and when to walk away". Every guy you grow to like is not worth trying harder for. Sometimes he's just not on your level. So instead of sitting around waiting and trying to mold him into something he is not, why not go out and find what your looking for. Or at least make yourself available for it. You can't change someone that doesn't want to be changed, and a outside female can't TAKE a man who is not available to be took. NO, that woman you dislike did not STEAL your man, or wreck your happy home. If he was truly YOUR man, he wouldn't have left.


Women would spare themselves so much pain and grief if they just realized "hey, it may be time to move on". Some people are in your life for a reason, season, lifetime; and you need to be able to realize and accept what their purpose in your life is/was. Now this is not to say that there are not good men out there worth waiting on, and growing with; but I don't think that's a decision we as women should be making on our own. Wait for the signs from the only being that can give it, before you decide to put everything on hold for someone who's season could very well be up.

283...YES WE CAN and DID!!!

It was when the Associated Press announced 283 that pandemonium erupted everywhere. People took to the streets of all races in all nations in celebration of Barack Obama, a black man, becoming the President Elect of the United States. THE PRESIDENT YA'LL!!!! I was literally left speechless. Here I am 28 years old and I am apart of history. My vote, my simple little vote along with the rest of my generation has helped to change the corridors of America forever. Big up to my generation, this election goes to show you that if we want something or agree with something WE WILL STAND UP AND UNITE FOR IT!!!

Last night was such a memorable event on so many levels. It told us that if you believe that you can do something, you can do it. It showed us that maybe; just maybe, America has grown up a bit and is willing to look beyond color and judge according to the content of their character. We did it Dr. Martin Luther King...WE DID IT!!!

On a personal note, it showed Black America that we do have a voice and it has been heard. It showed us that prayer does change things. It shows that despite what the media portray of us "black love" is on and popping. It gave America a glimpse into how love shapes who we are and what we are. I hope that Obama and Michelle's example inspire us...black people to want to continue to love and support each other. To show others that we, black women, want to love and celebrate our black men. And our black men to want to continue to love and celebrate us black women.

Our kids now finally get a chance to see a family that looks like them, that's struggled like them and over came like they will, in the White House. Grant it, this may not be just about black people but "we" as a people take pride and selfish piece of accomplishment from this powerful and monumental occasion. Man, I'm still in awe! This is definitely one of the most unforgettable moments to date. We got a lot of work to do but I stand behind and support my new President Barack Obama.

SAY IT LOUD, I'M BLACK AND I'M PROUD!