STOP PLAYING URSELF...PLEAZ!!!

She gave him way more than he needed in the beginning of the relationship and started to assume that things were developing. You know what they say about those that assume...you only make an ass of yourself...and an ass she did! She begin to label things before things were even label-able. She took his kindness as an affectionate gesture towards her, "he must like me since he's doing all this," is what she felt even though he hadn't said such. She begins to offer things and he begins to take, just like he would for any other female. Now she's feeling special because she's sharing things with him that wouldn't "share with the average." He thinks nothing of it and continues to move forward having no clue of the concepts the are developing in her head and the labels that she has begun to whisper amongst the lonely audience of her home.

He sees something that he like and begins to chase after it unlike the way he chased after her. He begins to share his enthusiasm and interest in his muse while she can't figure out where she went wrong. She's put in the time and effort and this new chik gets all his attention. Her heart begins to break as he begins to drift away from her and into the arms of his chase. He starts to call less unless its for advice on what he should do to get his new interest to start paying him attention. With ever question he ask her heart crumbles and cripples due to his sincere interest in someone ... that's not her. He's so exhausted from pursuing and chasing his desire but is so enjoying the journey because she's worth it.

She on the other hand can't believe it, her world is fading to black fast. She fell in love with someone that had no idea he was supposed to love her....because he wasn't supposed to love her. He was supposed to love who he's in love with. She on the other hand was just a snack he indulged along the way. In his eyes their was no harm done because it was a mutual agreement that just happened to happen. He had nothing vested in it and wasn't expecting nothing from it because initially that wasn't what he wasn't looking for it. He figured out what he was looking for after he got tired of snacking and wanted a full meal. Knowing in order for him to receive his full meal he would have to find the right cook, with the right ingredients that knew how to cook what he needed. He knew it would take time and patience but for the satisfaction of having a good meal, he was willing to wait on it.

So many times we play ourselves but want to blame the guy. Whatever a guy truly wants he will go after it until he gets it. We don't have to give them lead way or help them out... that only handicaps them from doing what they are supposed to do. And just because a guy does something nice for you doesn't mean he's interested in you. And just because a guy may not be interested in you doesn't make anything wrong with him or you... you're just not each other's fit. Stop giving in so quick, fall back, get your emotions in check, because feelings can be fleeting. Keep your guard up until its time for it to come down. Keep a set of standards that a guys has to meet before you waste your energy on something that's not. Go back to what your mama, grandma or someone amongst the wise used to tell about guys. This is not meant to bash men but c'mon we gotta do better. Guys are tired or going through unnecessary stuff with us too, give them something to chase or work for...they really want to work for it. If they don't, then you don't them any way.