Don't Save Em, They Don't Wanna Be Saved...

Time and Time again people come to you for advice, and then turn around and do the exact opposite of what you suggested. If you knew you were going to do what you wanted, why even ask for advice. Why waste my precious breath! I guess they are unaware of the whole "once you know, your held accountable" theory. Well from now on, no more advice from me. I will simply sit back, watch you fall, then laugh hysterically. May even reach my hand out to help you up, and then pull it back quickly before you grab it so you fall again. Muahahahahahaa

Why does she stay?

So I was asked to write a blog as to why chics stay with a dude who isn't necessarily treating them right and here is what I came up with.


History- sometimes when you have a history with a person, it isn't so easy to just walk away. It's what you know, what your familiar with. Sometimes the good in that person outweighs the things that they are doing wrong at the moment, and the chic believes that 1 day "things will return to how they were". The Good Old Days..

The fear of the unknown- starting a new relationship is like moving to a new territory. No matter how much you THINK you know this new person, once your really acquainted things could turn out to be the same as what you were leaving. You always want your next to be better than your ex, and since there's no real way of knowing that without actually making that move, sometimes it's easier to stay.

Material/Future- sometimes chics don't value themselves more than the THINGS a guy does for her. So to you, he could be slacking in sooo many areas, but to her because he has X Y Z, or the potential to get/have these things, she won't go. She doesn't want to leave and another chic ends up with what she was supposed to have (Insert Beyonce's song lyrics " she gone be rocking chinchilla coats if I let you go… I can't let you go, damned if I let you go").

Payback/Guilt- remember there are 2 sides to every story. So just because you see that he is just dogging her from your point of view, you don't know the dirt that she has done. Not saying two wrongs make a right, but there are always 3 sides to a story her's, his, and the truth. CLEARLY a situation where both are dogging each other is just toxic, but it's just another reason why chics stay.

There are a lot of other things I could write about such as their past experiences with men, the way their mothers or whoever they looked up to dealt with men, etc.. There's no 1 reason. Umm that's all I have for now.. I will write more 1 day

BEING THE BIGGER PERSON

For the record let me start off by saying I HATE having to be the bigger person towards someone older than me that should know the difference between right and wrong. You are too old to be acting like you don't know when something is inapporpriate or down right wrong. Nine times out of ten you've disciplined your child or someone else's child for this same action but here you are acting brand new to it. Why should I have to suck up how I feel to appease you when I clearly feel like you still gon shit in my corn flakes. If you had ample time to make something happen and CHOSE not to for whatever reason, then when somebody else decides to make something happen you jump on the band wagon, not take over and try to start driving. See that's the shit right there that'll make your older ass get ran over.

And yes, I am very irate/livid at the moment.